Dear Younger Self - A Birthday Reflection

factored in pain, challenges, and loss. I forgot to include the year I would have to take off from college after my grandmother’s passing or the semester I would experience life problems which left me so unfocused. Oh and lets not even get started on the fact that I should be married by now with two kids. Ha-ha! Not one, but two. I laughed writing that. As if I could predict the number of children I would have at this time. My list never included heartbreak, pain, and bad relationships whether they be romantic or platonic. Who knew I would spend a year completely to myself shut off with only God before I ever even considered dating or talking to someone?
If I
could write a letter to 17-year-old Kelsie this is what it might look like:
I know
you may feel pressured right now to have your life planned out and even feel
the need to make hasty decisions because of it. You have time to figure out
life. When you have the opportunity to go home and cry to your mom about the 81
you received in your Biology class, don’t. One day you will be 25 years old, in
college, and grateful for the 69.8 you received in your upper level Management
class. Spend less time trying to finish school earlier than scheduled and take
time out to be young. Eat healthy and work out now so you don’t gain the
freshman 15, 18, 30, who’s counting? Your older body will appreciate your
healthier eating habits that you developed at a younger age and the transition
as an adult into a healthy lifestyle will be easier.
Spend as
much time with granny as you can before you go off to college. You will return
home from bible school and only have a few years left with her. Talk to her and
write everything down. Ask her what life lessons helped shape her into the
person she is today. Ask her why she married your papa and if she could do
anything in life again, what would it be? She has wisdom and a genuine heart
that you won’t find in many people throughout life. When your dad shows up at graduation,
spend more time getting to know him instead of being upset and letting it
effect the time you have with him. One day you will be 25 years old and realize
that the last time you saw him you were 18 years old.
When
given the opportunity, forgive sooner. You will understand that some people are
just hurting, not bad people, but hurt. Trust me, you would much rather love
people than walk around hating the world.Tell the people in
your life how important they are to you. Remind them that you love them every
chance you get. That guy
you talk to you won’t marry. Heck, you’ll barely remember the few dates when
you’re older. Don’t spend time crying over him and losing so much sleep. You
deserve real authentic love from someone who sees the real you and chooses you
always, wait for that.
Most
importantly, spend more time at church listening instead of just going to make
mom happy. You will learn valuable lessons from the bible that will one day be
the words that you hold onto for situations in your adult life. Don’t stress
over not knowing what to do next. God has a plan for you and it will begin to
unfold as you go in life.
Sincerely,
The 25-year-old you that could’ve slowed down, smelled the roses, and done some
things differently.
The great thing is that it’s never too late to begin
again from where I am now and finish strong. I can be the person I aspire to be
one choice at a time. I hope that 25 brings real lasting change, breakthroughs,
and most importantly I hope I am true to who I am, even when it’s
uncomfortable. Nobody is harder on me then I am on myself. For real. I hope I
allow myself more room for failure because it will come and when it does I hope
it drives me and gives me the push I need to keep going. In the words of Jessie
J, “Sometimes it's hard to follow your heart. Tears don't mean you're losing,
everybody's bruising. Just be true to who you are.”
I ended up having a great day on my actual birthday
and spent it surrounded with people I love and who love me. I am thankful and
blessed to be here and look forward to many more years.
Here is to 25, staying true to who I am, living, learning,
loving completely, and finishing some things.
Happy birthday to me!
4 comments
Happy Belated Birthday 🎉
ReplyDeleteI like how you quoted Carl Jung. I'm learning a lot about him now. I'm turning 25 in June, and even though I'm in school for my Master's in MFT, I actually feel a little down because I'm not financially in the place that I planned for myself. I just keep having to tell myself this too shall past. Great post.
Cinnamon,
DeleteThank you for the birthday wishes. Yes, I completely understand. I think we have to give yourself grace to get to that place and to understand that god things take time. Best of wishes on your Masters!
-xx, Kels
Hey Kels,
ReplyDeleteThis was such a beautifully written post and such raw emotions. Thank you for sharing everything with us... it is post like these that make me feel that much more in tune with you. I think anyone at any age can appreciate this post, but I want to emphasize on how proud I am that you are now learning from your "failures" instead of beating yourself up over them.
I hope that all of these reflection not only help us, but assist you as well in the Kelsie of today and in the future...you are destine for some many good things and you know God will see you through. You just have to be ready to take the leap. So go head "witcho bad self!!!"
xoxo
Doris
Hey hey Doris,
DeleteThank you so much for the encouragement and glad you enjoyed the post. I am looking forward to all that 25 has and that God has for me. Hope you have the best year yet as well.
-Kels